Perhaps people who reject the cabeceo feel a little threatened by it somehow. Don't so many of us simply avoid the things we don't understand?
In Adelaide, it's delightful to see an increasing number of people getting the hang of the cabeceo. Some use it with apparent ease, while others are still honing their skills and may experience awkward moments.
How do you like your cabeceo? At the beginning of a tanda which you would like to dance to, do you ...
- continue talking with the person next to you and then wonder why you're not dancing to that wonderful music?
- approach the person, and indicate non-verbally that you'd like to dance with her/him?
- focus on a person for a short while, so that they have a chance to register your interest. If they don't appear interested, you direct your gaze at a different potential partner?
- look around the salon; your gaze alighting briefly on potential partners of interest, until one of them responds positively?
- stare intently at a person, regardless of whether they have clearly ignored your gaze. Continue to stare at her/him, in the hope of wearing down their defences?